WHAT SAYETH THE LORD about Careers in Marriage

Pastor TL Mashiloane

Every career inevitably has its own demands which might have a negative impact on any marriage. One of the things couples must strongly consider before committing to marriage is how they will balance career life and marriage or family life. I know of marriages that have ended up in divorce because of couples prioritizing their careers over their marriages. I personally believe that one can have a thriving career as well as a successful marriage at the same time. It’s all about balance. Many young people believe that they have to urgently take every career opportunity that comes their way. Unfortunately they don’t carry this urgency into their marriages.

The success of a marriage hinges on its maintenance and ongoing care. Prioritizing your career over your marriage may leave your spouse feeling neglected and this will definitely be of detriment to your marriage even if such perceived neglect may be for a short season. Couples need to carefully consider whether they would live with an unsuccessful marriage or an unsuccessful career. An ideal situation is where your career doesn’t affect your marriage and your marriage doesn’t affect your career.

{Ecclesiastes 9:9-10} 9 Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun. 10 Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom.

My advice to couples is that, they should try as much as they can not to bring any work home. I would like to encourage young professionals to be resolute about making time and space for their marriages. Most importantly couples should make time to talk about their goals at least every year to see if there are any changes to what they individually desire to achieve in life. As much as you possibly can, help one another achieve your respective goals and dreams. This might meaning sacrificing and compromising in order for you spouse to achieve their goal.

It is important to also remember that a career is a means of providing for the family. At the end of the day, bills must be paid.

Lastly I would like to advice couples to mutually agree on any vocational decision that might have impact on their marriage.

Father, your greatest command was to love You and love each other according to Matthew 22:36-40. I pray that we may set aside our selfishness and pride and that we may always consider one another in all vocational decisions we make. May you help us to always look out for each other’s interests according to Philippians 2:2-4. In the midst of our busy lives and tight schedules help us to take time to show one another love. May our careers not interfere with our marriages. May you also open doors of opportunity that we may always be able to provide for our families. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, I pray Amen and praise the Lord.

Pastor T.L Mashiloane has been married for 19 years. He is the Presiding Pastor of two Full Gospel Church assemblies, City of Love & Restoration in Sasolburg and Faith Tabernacle in Viljoenskroon.

For further advice and counselling contact Pastor Mashiloane on 082 579 4595

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